Girl, Get Over It

I get it! Loosing someone that you love/loved is tough but if they wanted to go, girl let them go! Do not even think twice about begging them to stay. It will cause a little or a lot of heartache and pain because essentially you are "loosing" someone. With that being said, sometimes you have to grieve your lost (really its their lost but you know what I mean).

There are five stages of grief:

Denial and Isolation   | Anger   |   Bargaining   |   Depression   |   Acceptance 

You may or may not experience all five stages. Yet, it is extremely important to give your heart the time that it needs to heal. Take your time but try not to take too long! Easier said than done but learn from me, grieving too long will not leave you in the correct state of mind.

During my grieving process, I can be honest, it was tough and I shed many of tears. I allowed myself to go deeper and deeper in my depression over someone that didn't even matter anymore. Now, understand the deeper your in the harder it is to pull yourself out. So, do yourself a favor. It is going to be hard but know that it is perfectly normal and it... is... ok. Cry, scream, do whatever you have to do but most importantly P-R-A-Y.

​At the end of the day, their gone because they chose to leave or you had to make the choice to leave. Either way, let them go and let it be! They didn't see your value when they were with you and they aren't going to value you if you stay. It's their lost! They may not realize it today, tomorrow, or every two years from now but eventually they will. That isn't of your concern though, allow God to handle it. It is time for you to do you, boo! Move on to bigger and better. Don't give too much energy crying over them because I can tell you one thing, they are not crying over you! If they are anything like my ex, they will smile at seeing you cry. They may talk a good game but in reality they will only try to keep you around as a side piece. 

Honey, you are no back pocket chic! Someone they can keep in the back pocket when they "need" something. You better tell them that you are not a convenient store!

This is not Burger King, they can not have their way!

Realize that God has removed that person from your life, for YOUR good! Let me tell you, during my grieving process I hit all five stages, which was the worst! I was in the depression stages for months. I had reached my breaking point and it took me some time to get out of my pity party. Although, its okay to cry, vent, and grieve, don't allow yourself to live in your depression and frustration. When I look back at that time in my life, it makes me upset. I get upset for allowing myself to get that low, over him. Someone that I THOUGHT was everything I wanted but now I realize he isn't worth two dime put together. I was fighting depression while he was smiling for the gram! (Instagram). What kind of foolishness is that? I thought he won and God had him in favor and not me. I felt like he got everything he wanted, which at the time I didn't think was fair. I even became angry at God because I couldn't see why he would allow me to go through so much pain.

Now...

I realize that in the end he got the short end of the stick. God had/has victory for me! I am much better than when I was in that relationship. Don't get me wrong, the two of us had some great times together and made awesome memories. It's when I looked at the long-term, I was/am better off without him.  

It took a couple of months for me to get back to ME, but I did it! You can too! ​This entire situation, God is preparing you. Although you are unable to see it, does not mean that He isn't working. He sees your hurt and pain, and he will restore you. Keep fighting and do not allow the enemy to win! The devil only wants to see you miserable, don't even give him or that troll the satisfaction.

Get out of your funk, do what makes you happy! Starting hanging out with your friends, go shopping, travel, etc. Now, don't be like me, shop and party until you drop because that doesn't solve anything either. Just get back to you and starting living again. Soon you will realize that they were only holding you back from your destiny.

Let it go. By Felicia! Take control over your heart and get ready to walk into your blessing.

Ask your self, did you really NEED him?

Matthew 11:28-30

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”