Friend-lationships

Throughout life, friends come and go. 

 

"Everyone has their season."

People come into your lifetime for a lifetime or a season.

 

 

At times, people fail to realize that friendships are relationships too! Not to mention a break up with a friend can be just as detrimental, if not worst. Just like any other relationship, friendships take work and it takes both individuals.

Recently, I had my heart broken by a friend. Honestly, I can't tell you what exactly happened, I just know it ended in a huge fall out with us blaming each other. Are those the worst?!

 

With some friendships you have to learn to let go. Especially if they become toxic to you and your well-being. This could go the other way around as well. If you feel as though the friendship is not mutual, you may grow some ill-feelings towards that person. Which can cause YOU to be toxic to that person. Always giving into a relationship and not getting anything in return (not saying you always have to look for something in return but you want to feel like you have a friend) can be draining. Over the course of different friendships you realize that some people have different views on friendships. Some people are fine with talking to you once every few months and liking your pictures on social media. In my opinion that's an associate. Please don't get those two confused! Friends vs. Associates. Now, don't get me wrong, we all have those friends that we can go weeks without talking to and pick back up where you left off but those are friendship that have been seasoned! I am the type of person that truly value my friends and although I may not talk to you every day after a few weeks of even days, we are hitting each other up like," Girl! Where you been?!" It's all in our love for each other.

 

In friendships you create memories! No matter how bad the fall out, you will never forget the good times. Yet, you will never forget the way that friendship made you feel either. You can't keep pulling at a dead horse (friendship) that isn't working, nor should you have to. How is that any fair to you!? These are the type of friendships that you have to give grace to and move on. It's sometimes best for the both of you. Pray for them and expect nothing in return. Unfortunately, people can become so wrapped up in their own lives they forget about some of the ones that care for them the most. I've seen so many times how a friend will stay in a dead relationship with a significant other and try their hardest at keeping hope alive but when it comes to a friendship they are so quick to write it off!

 

There comes a time when you have to extend the olive branch and leave it there. You probably will never understand where the relationship went left but its okay. Don't keep beating that dead horse! It isn't healthy! Only pray about and place it in the Lords hands. If the friendship is meant to be, the test of time will reveal itself. You never know, the friendship may come back together stronger than ever before! Just do yourself a favor and don't sit around and dwell on that friendship heartbreak. Move on and live your life. That friend may come back around, and be there for them if they need you. Just learn to love them from a distance if you need to.

 

God will place those meant to be in your life in your path. Do you and be a blessing to others! No hard feelings, God is in control and friends come and go...

 

"A sweet friendship refreshes the soul"

Proverbs 27:9