I get it! Loosing
someone that you love/loved is tough but if they wanted to go, girl let them go!
Do not even think twice about begging them to stay. It will cause a little or a lot of heartache and pain because essentially you are "loosing" someone. With that being said, sometimes you have to grieve your lost (really its their lost but you know what I mean).
There are five stages
of grief:
Denial
and Isolation | Anger | Bargaining | Depression | Acceptance
You may or may
not experience all five stages. Yet, it is extremely important to give your heart
the time that it needs to heal. Take your time but try
not to take too long! Easier said than done but learn from me, grieving too long will not leave you in the correct state of mind.
During my grieving process, I
can be honest, it was tough and I shed many of tears. I allowed myself to go deeper and deeper in my depression over someone that didn't even matter anymore. Now, understand the deeper your in the harder it is to pull yourself out. So, do yourself a favor. It is going to be hard but know that it is perfectly normal and
it... is... ok. Cry, scream, do whatever you have to do but most importantly P-R-A-Y.
At the
end of the day, their gone because they chose to leave or you had to make the
choice to leave. Either way, let them go and let it be! They didn't see your
value when they were with you and they aren't going to value you if you stay.
It's their lost! They may not realize it today, tomorrow, or every two years from now but eventually they will. That isn't of your concern though, allow God to handle it. It is time for you to do you, boo! Move on to bigger and better.
Don't give too much energy crying over them because I can tell you one
thing, they are not crying over you! If they are anything like my ex, they
will smile at seeing you cry. They may talk a good game but in reality they
will only try to keep you around as a side piece.
Honey, you are no back
pocket chic! Someone they can keep in the back pocket when they
"need" something. You better tell them that you are not a convenient
store!
This is not Burger King, they can not have
their way!
Realize that God has removed that person from your life, for
YOUR good! Let me tell you, during my grieving process I hit all five stages,
which was the worst! I was in the depression stages for months. I had
reached my breaking point and it took me some time to get out of my pity party.
Although, its okay to cry, vent, and grieve, don't allow yourself to live in
your depression and frustration. When I look back at that time in my life, it
makes me upset. I get upset for allowing myself to get that low, over him.
Someone that I THOUGHT was everything I wanted but now I realize he isn't
worth two dime put together. I was fighting depression while he was
smiling for the gram! (Instagram). What kind of foolishness is that? I thought
he won and God had him in favor and not me. I felt like he got everything he
wanted, which at the time I didn't think was fair. I even became angry at God
because I couldn't see why he would allow me to go through so much pain.
Now...
I realize that in the end he got the short end of the stick. God
had/has victory for me! I am much better than when I was in that relationship.
Don't get me wrong, the two of us had some great times together and made
awesome memories. It's when I looked at the long-term, I was/am better off
without him.
It took a couple of months for me to get back to ME, but I did
it! You can too! This entire
situation, God is preparing you. Although you are unable to see it, does not
mean that He isn't working. He sees your hurt and pain, and he will restore
you. Keep fighting and do not allow the enemy to win! The devil only wants to
see you miserable, don't even give him or that troll the satisfaction.
Get out of your funk, do what makes you happy! Starting hanging
out with your friends, go shopping, travel, etc. Now, don't be like me, shop
and party until you drop because that doesn't solve anything either. Just get
back to you and starting living again. Soon you will realize that they were
only holding you back from your destiny.
Let it go. By Felicia! Take control over your heart and get
ready to walk into your blessing.
Ask your self, did you really NEED him?
Matthew 11:28-30
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will
give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and
lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and
my burden is light.”
